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No Meanies
Make the World a Better Place
Created on 2005-12-05 23:53:15 (#8963389), last updated 2006-04-10
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Basic Info| Name: | defacing_evil |
|---|---|
| Birthdate: | 05-10 |
| Location: | Norcross, Georgia, United States |
BioHello, my name is Lydia Lloyd. I volunteer at a help-desk and I like to read through some of these journals when things are slow at work. If something touches me or if I feel I can offer a comment that may help someone, I will. Hope you don't mind. I am very outspoken about how people treat each other and I wonder what happened to brotherly love in this world. I am especially put-off by people who bully other people and that is why I wrote this:
Why Are People Mean?
The first time I saw a T-shirt that said "mean people suck," I thought, now, there is a heartfelt sentiment. I only wished I'd been the designer/author. We encounter mean people everyday in our lives, and I began to think about not only how to deal with meanies, but how to avoid them in my life completely.
First, I thought about how my first reaction to a person who is mean is getting mean right back. Annoyingly, my job constantly reminds me that there has to be a more responsible and effective way to respond. Meanness emerges when we believe that we have no power, that we're passive receptors of life's crap. Inner peace follows when we begin responding to cruelty—our own and other people's—with the authority we've always possessed. Authority to step above the meanines and toughen up.
Why are people mean? There is only one answer: they're hurt. Somewhere along the way, they were crushed and they're afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again. They carry a chip on their shoulder and cannot forgive the ones who hurt their precious little feelings. They refuse to accept responsibility for any action of their own causing the pain in their lives. They must always place blame on anyone other than themselves.
There. I've just described every single mean person living on planet Earth.
The fact is that we've all been hurt, and we're all wounded, but not all of us are mean. Why not? Because some people realize that their history of suffering makes them smarter and stronger making them tough enough to stand up and accept responsibility when they are at fault and consider themselves hero-like rather than a whining victim. The moment we begin tolerating meanness, in ourselves or others, we are using our power in the service of wrongdoing. Each of us has both the capacity and the obligation to do better.
Why Are People Mean?
The first time I saw a T-shirt that said "mean people suck," I thought, now, there is a heartfelt sentiment. I only wished I'd been the designer/author. We encounter mean people everyday in our lives, and I began to think about not only how to deal with meanies, but how to avoid them in my life completely.
First, I thought about how my first reaction to a person who is mean is getting mean right back. Annoyingly, my job constantly reminds me that there has to be a more responsible and effective way to respond. Meanness emerges when we believe that we have no power, that we're passive receptors of life's crap. Inner peace follows when we begin responding to cruelty—our own and other people's—with the authority we've always possessed. Authority to step above the meanines and toughen up.
Why are people mean? There is only one answer: they're hurt. Somewhere along the way, they were crushed and they're afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again. They carry a chip on their shoulder and cannot forgive the ones who hurt their precious little feelings. They refuse to accept responsibility for any action of their own causing the pain in their lives. They must always place blame on anyone other than themselves.
There. I've just described every single mean person living on planet Earth.
The fact is that we've all been hurt, and we're all wounded, but not all of us are mean. Why not? Because some people realize that their history of suffering makes them smarter and stronger making them tough enough to stand up and accept responsibility when they are at fault and consider themselves hero-like rather than a whining victim. The moment we begin tolerating meanness, in ourselves or others, we are using our power in the service of wrongdoing. Each of us has both the capacity and the obligation to do better.
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